Thank you! Just having your support, helped give me the strength to go to last night's football game with a smile and my inner glow intact.
As you probably guessed, Dick went to the homecoming game with Jane, her two daughters (nope, her son's weren't there, nor do I believe they are welcomed to attend events with Dick, cause he doesn't like either one of them.) Dick's father, and his brother also arrived.
I enjoyed the game, enjoyed my friends, my time, and owned my space! I felt totally comfortable the entire time... of course noticing Dick has a mullet cut really was the icing on the cake, which everytime he wondered into my peripheral vision caused me to laugh! Oh, Jane hung all over him, and both sets of eyes were constantly watching me.... not S, who was in the field playing his heart out.
The people who recognized him, came to me, asked me how I was doing... I told them all the same thing, which was "grateful and thankful"... for I thought to myself about the past I have finally left behind. I couldn't imagine holding on to a man for dear life, while he was watching his ex-wife's every move! Each person who talked to me, mentioned Dick looked really bad, he has aged at least 20 years, looks terrible and very unhappy..... I just smiled with acknowledgement.
At the end of the game, the crowd (family and friends) join the players on the field to congratulate(or console)the players. Apparently Dick didn't know this, but quickly caught on... As I was walking towards the boys, I see Dick (out of the corner of my eye) speed walking to catch up (leaving Jane way back at the bleachers), while constantly keeping an eye on me, and trying to intersect my future steps.... I kept on walking as if he wasn't there, and didn't exist, but I have to say I was amazed because this was the first time I had seen him without a walker or cane and moving faster than I have seen him in over a year!
I reach S two steps before Dick, while S gives me a hug. The cheerleaders ask me to take pictures of a group of them, allowing me to turn my back to Dick. I was fumbling four cameras, taking a picture with each camera, of the handsome group which included my S. The kids were all talking to me, as we were all talking and joking around. Dick tried to become a part of what was going on, he began to talk louder, yet still facing towards me, then finally S responded to something he said. The crowd started to wonder back to their cars, and I just walked away, not even giving Dick a glance.
Snodderly, you know how you and I have wondered what the xh's would do if they thought we were involved? Well, I have this male friend who played "the part" with me.... it left old Dick squirming and watching our every move. Both kids were asked who the guy was that was with me, as they both know his name, know we are just friends, but just gave Dick his name, without any explanation.
Dick allowed both kids to stay for the dance which followed the game.... he told both kids he'd be here at 10:00am this morning to pick them up. Well, at 11:45 he finally showed up, the kids left, telling me they were going over to their Aunts for the night, but were happy to see that Jane and her kids weren't anywhere in sight. I've had text messages from both of them, and it seems at this time, they are both quite content.
As for who is telling Dick what is going on in our home, my guess it's S. Although, much of what Dick has reported to not only SRS but the court too, has been grossly altered to fit his needs. I'm sure he'd call just after D and I went to take showers, finding S home alone, not knowing S preferred to take his shower in the morning and took them then. My manager has already told me she will join me in court to report this fact too. We took showers where I work during the time we waited for the plumber to show up, while the sewer line was backing up. Dick used a tidbit of the information, (or a bit of the truth) then expanded the information with his own lies to make it sound as though I favored D over S.
He blantantly lied about me not purchasing parts to fix S's car... I have the receipts to prove I was the one who has tried to help him... Dick also knows I bought the parts, but he felt the need to lie anyway. I was the one who replaced the badly worn tires Dick had on the vehicle and promised S he would replace, and never did, nor did he even try to pay me back, a clear sign of his attitude towards the children's true needs.
Dick's line of BS is just like all the rest of the lies and distortion he has lived with for the past 5+ years. Now that I've had time to step away from the paperwork, I realize how rediculous all of it seems... and if I am able to find an attorney who will take my case, it should easily be a cake walk, for I do have all the receipts and paperwork just waiting to be used.
The kids counselor, along with my counselor have both told me they want to help me and will do what it takes. I told them both months ago that Dick's next move is to try to take the children from me. The counselor has asked both children IF they want to live with their father, as both have replied, "No way, we want to stay here." The (my) SRS agent is aware that SRS has already found symptoms of emotional abuse in Janes home, and knows the agent involved with her (Jane's) case and is in contact with her.
So, I still have my worked cut out for me, BUT, if I can find an attorney who will go the distance and do the work, I just might have the peace I've been searching for by Christmas and what a present it will be!
Take care of you, God Bless
Love,
Laughing
Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you.........
