Yeah, natural redhead. Actually, the "other guy" makes my stomach roll when I think about him now, makes me sick to think about him. Not in a scared/guilty kind of way, just that he was/is H's friend/co-worker and is married and the stuff he said & did was absolutely out of line. At first, I did go along w/ it. Feeling attractive to someone else was very nice and now I understand the "addiction" of EA's. Just glad that's over with. No desire to "go there" anymore. I'm just so glad that I/we (H &I) have a second chance to get things right.


But, I do agree, it's helpful to go through it and have a better understanding of how/why H did some of the things he did.

Me: 38
H: 35
S4, S5, S10
Bomb 01/07
Wanted D - nothing would change his mind
Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb
Piecing 04/07
Deployed for a year 05/07
Still Piecing 2010
M 11 yrs 05/10