NoDirection, I know that you are sad and upset and possibly angry, you just have to let those emotions happen, don't try so hard to fight them, and don't use them against the W, I know that it is hard, not to, but the best thing to do, right now is what you have been doing, just giving her her space, and take some yourself, as well, In time, it'll let both you cool down, so you can both deal with these things, in a rational manner.
Keep praying and giving it to God, Focus on Him, and He will help you when the bad emotions come! Then, just let them run their course, Keep posting here, rant, vent, cry, whatever, we are here for you. In the meantime, try to find faith based C'ing, that sounds like it will help you, immensely, I know that I wouldn't be where I am, now, if it weren't for my C, Take care.