Wonderful post. This aspect of the MLCer has always frustrated me the most since my H was so wonderful at steering his life the right way before all of this.
He takes responsibility for nada.
He has no control regarding his spending, OW, what he says, etc..
It is almost like they are looking at themselves from above the clouds.
To me so much of this is them playing the victim. It is almost like they are so attention starved they will do anything even for the most negative attention. It is so odd to me that they throw away their integrity and character.
It is a self-sabotage which comes from an unbelievable low self-esteem. It is a "living suicide" so to speak.
Me: 45 H: 43 Married: 19 years Dated 05 years Bomb: 11/06 OW - "I love her, but still want you as my friend"
