Hi, I have a few points from Homer MacDonald who references Michele in his book Called Stop Your Divorce. I am so paraphrasing, so you can check it yourself. If your H says he wants to move, you act as if you can help him by searching the newspapers or by offering to get his stuff ready for him, pleasantly not bitterly. This is also an aspect of Marriage Builders. It says to agree with everything they want and expect nothing in return. Pretty drastic, but think of the long haul. Homer thinks: If you do date others he will see that you realize you do want to be treated with respect. Guess what, he has already shown you that when he thought you were dancing with others. Don't pursue, both Michele and Homer say this becaue your H has such low self esteem he will not respect your love right now.
I also married my prom date and first kiss virgin boyfriend. We also met as young kids and so our families are extremely intertwined. My H has also had issues with some substance, his work, the kids taking time, my work, aging, Other Women, etc. You are not alone. You are doing a great job. You sound like a classy strong broad to me. Of course your H is out of his mind. His "friend" the OW is in a weak position and sometimes MLCers abandon competent wives for weaker OW because it boosts their ego. They can put on a Superman cape and escape their lives. It is ironic because now is a time you are very vulnerable to finding an OM to rescue you! Keep doing what you are doing but do not go after the OW unless you want H to feel protective of her when he should be protective of you!!! That OW if she really is even that, is not competition, she is weak. There is a difference.
Me:38 H:39 MLC M:10 R:23 years D6 S3 Bomb: Easter, 2007 "Every day may not be good, but there's something good in every day."
