You're right, wise words. Most days i feel like that,but i'm tired sometimes. I think i need to set more goals for myself. I'm going to start a ladies tennis session next Monday and start yoga again on Fridays. Tell me off if i don't!! I'm also interested in another IT course, i've just finished one. I'm thinking of a bookkeeping course. At least i can work from home. I'm a childminder at the moment, which is great whilst the kids are young.
One of my H big problems is that i went back to work after child 1 and 2. I was a QA manager for a training company. I worked part-time, but he has strong views about putting the children in childcare. I had just finished my degree and wanted to work as well as have a family(all the women in my family worked with kids). It's strange because when i had son 3 i gave up work studied for a bit and then became a childminder, which i do from home. It's almost like he got what he wanted(wife at home) and then it all turned to mud. It's strange he has always been quite jealous about the fact i could change my work options. The fact i have a few afternoons off in the week, when the kids are at school. He always compares himself to me. He's always been like that. One positive thing at the moment is he is actively looking for different work options. I've said i'll support whatever he wants to do.
My gut feeling about my situation is that H wants to make a go of things, but finding it hard to stop contact with ow. His work life is a nightmare because a lot of people started talking about h and ow. It's a long complicated story. Anyway the Headmaster got invloved, people nearly got sacked. He's still smarting over that issuee as well(obviously all my fault)I wish i had read DB before i started interrogating people at the school. But i was in shock!!!!
What's keeping me here is the fact, that before ow came along he was lovely. Ok we had problems, i can see that now. But we were alright.
What was interesting, was last night he said that he's drawn to people who have problems. It made me think. All his girl friends before me had lots of issuees. (me included) but when the women became stronger and matured into their own person,he left.
Almost like he hasn't got control anymore.
I could go on and on.... but can you see what i'm up against. I'm hoping if he can find a job he's happy with then he will be happier.
Like you said i can't do anything about it. My biggest problem is i miss the affection(i know it's a bit soft) but i can't help it. Before these problems i took it for granted and didn't miss it particulary. But when something is taken away completely, that's when you realise.
