Loony, as long as he is drinking until he gets drunk you will not be able to get through to him. Alcohol skews everything. I suggest you start attending alanon.
and read some of the stickies and, of course, the posts, too.
You need to get your focus off him and back on you. What do you want for you that you can make happen for you, kwim?
"Reality" for an alcoholic is distorted, even when they're not drinking. It's difficult, if not impossible, to relate to them in a straightforward way. They can justify to themselves whatever they do because someone else "made them" or "drove them to it." Confronting him is a good idea, but be prepared for whatever he is doing to be "your fault."
In the long run, you must remove yourself from the equation (not necessarily physically) and let him experience himself and the alcohol with no one else to blame. This you can learn at alanon and on that message board. It's VERY difficult, but it can be a real growth process for you.
