Well, it's only a matter of days now before H will be able legally to file for D. Oct 3rd, the big 1 year anniversary of the day he left.
We've been emailing still, just casual stuff, and the next time I send a reply, I fully intend to mention the D. I'm still trying to figure out the wording, but it'll be something along the lines of...
I know it's just about time when you'll be able to file for divorce, so this is me asking you not to. The last year has been incredibly hard for me. I'm doing alright at the moment, apart from dreading someone arriving unannounced on my doorstep, presenting me with divorce papers.
My last Christmas was completely miserable, and I don't want the next one to be quite as painful. It'll already suck enough, seeing as how my little brother will have just left to live in London for a year or more.
The absolute LAST thing I want or need in my life right now is a damned divorce sprung on me. It's pretty obvious that you don't feel you need one, having already moved on with Amy. So if you don't need it, and I don't want it, can you please just leave things be? I haven't asked you for anything in a hell of a long time, so I don't feel out of line asking for this.
What do you reckon? Is that straight forward enough? I'm trying not to let it get bogged down with emotional stuff, and trying not to sound like I'm begging or anything like that.
He leaves for Africa to climb Mt Kilimanjaro on Oct 10th. I've bought him a St Christopher medal, (he's the patron saint of travellers), and another little charm of a compass, which I'm going to have engraved with "travel safe" on the back. I'd like to give them to him in person, but don't know if I should push that, so I'll probably just mail them to him instead.
I do want to actually see him after he gets back though, so he can tell me all about Africa in person. It's been sooooooo long since I've seen him! Christmas Eve last year!! I want to see him again so bad it hurts.
Almost forgot to mention that I'm considering getting a haircut. Woohoo. Huge decision, right? I'm not just talking about a trim though. My hair is shoulder length right now, but I'm thinking of going for the really short, pixie style cut. I haven't had hair that short since I was about 10 years old! I'm also considering dying it, though I'm not sure what colour yet. I briefly entertained going blonde, (I'm a brunette), but I might go red instead. Redder than the usual browny-red, but not fire engine red. I'm hoping that if I do get to see H again once he's back from Africa, that such a drastic change in my appearance will shock the pants right offa him!
Last edited by Ophelia; 09/29/0703:54 PM.
Me:30 H:30 Together:10yr H left:Oct3'06,couple weeks before 5th wed anniv. No Kids OW bomb:Jan19'07 My thread: He filed.
I'm not just talking about a trim though. My hair is shoulder length right now, but I'm thinking of going for the really short, pixie style cut. I haven't had hair that short since I was about 10 years old! I'm also considering dying it, though I'm not sure what colour yet. I briefly entertained going blonde, (I'm a brunette), but I might go red instead. Redder than the usual browny-red, but not fire engine red. I'm hoping that if I do get to see H again once he's back from Africa, that such a drastic change in my appearance will shock the pants right offa him!
