I think you should consider telling your husband about the difficulty you are having in not wandering. I think it would be good for him to know that the time he is spending away from you is time you could use to pursue other relationships yourself, such as online. I think that will let him know that he isn't the only one that can "play".
I understand that he might be a mean drunk, but he honestly sounds more like the mean men get when they have been around other women. I am not saying that he is cheating, but I believe he is standing at the precipice. I don't know how you feel about snooping, but I think you should consider it. There is no place in a marriage for secrets. Privacy is fine, secrets aren't. Privacy is a fart in the bathroom. A secret is a doctor practicing without a license, or a spouse with a paramour on the side.
Secrets do damage to a relationship.
Please do have the discussion I mentioned at the top of the post. I wold be very interested in hearing his response.
Don't bother asking him if he is cheating, he is very unlikely to admit it if he is.
If you want to cook this goose, I will throw in some fuel for the fire.
All the best, -NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
