BBA - not nasty envious, I promise you, but now you mention real pool boys, and stting around having drinks with those two sweeties, well all I can say is why wasn't I invited!!
I suppose that I meant that getting through the divorce marks some sort of breakpoint - and yes I know that some people get back together after the divorce. You seemed extraordinarily together to me while you were going through your double quick time divorce. I so longed for my marriage to be restored, but now I can see that I have grown so much, while my h is stil an emotional toddler - he went backwards, and I went forwards. Life is good, life is sweet. As the hymn says 'No guilt in life, no fear in death'.
On the rare occasions I talk to my h I can now see what a sad and tormented soul he has become. Initially he used to be 'in control' of our interchanges, and I was too broken and humiliated, too fearful and unsure of myself to respond properly. Now I can see he is just a total mess, beginning, sadly, to reap the full consequences of his self-destructive and cruel behaviour to those to whom he owed the most in terms of love and care. No gloating, but compassion.
Hugs, A
And yes, I hope we do go on growing and developing. My mother did until her dying day, and admired her so much for that.
