Sweets, you can be envious of me for getting to see my two lovies, but they may not feel you have any reason to be envious of them. Lovely Liss and Always have truly committed themselves to a tour of combat duty by agreeing to accompany me to this wedding. They've written themselves into the will, I can tell you that.
But I hope along the way we will have lots of time to laugh and cry and hug, not to mention sit by the pool and be waited on by real pool boys.
Yes, we will definitely make plans to get together in '08, I would love nothing better.
I don't know whether actually getting the divorce, in my case, helped me to move forward...as you recall, Pedro was hellbent, and he got his divorce at warp speed. I had very little time to really absorb what was happening, and just had to go into defensive mode to protect and preserve my life and assets. I didn't have time to work through letting go before the marriage itself was legally terminated.
That has been a process that has come since. It's been a combination of things: taking responsibility for things that I didn't have to before, and succeeding (assuming my mortgage, repairing fence); surviving scares and difficulties (house being struck by lightning, mare being lost); building friendships with people that otherwise would not have come into my life; and most importantly, developing a relationship with God from which I have been transformed into a much more compassionate, patient, humble, forgiving person.
We will definitely raise glasses to you, and make plans to see you soon, with love, BA
