I agree--I think I have worn out the desperate Donna with my friends and family--its like there is an unspoken timeline that someone should grieve, and then they are all "Just get over it already!" We have only been separated since mid July, and I am already expected to have moved on.
But you know what? It is getting closer. And I'm not as scared of it as I was. I think, maybe, that it has been over before I even got started, but I still had to go through my own grief process.
When someone dies, there is the ritual to help those left behind. This, this is so ambiguous....I had one of my "hard" friends ask me, What would you have done if he died?
I don't think it would have hurt this bad for this long...there is a finality to death that is easier to accept, I think.
So, I am trying to approach this as, the man who I knew and loved has died--he is no longer here, as the changes in him have made him unknown to me. I grieve for the husband I had. Taking it from there.
