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[Dom R]

. It seems like he had felt cornered into initiating and angry at me for clearly wanting sex when he didn't (emotionally or physically, the more we tried the more it wasn't happening

oh dear...

well, hopefully, you realize that in that kind of situation, "anger" is really just a mask to cover up their shame about "failure to perform".

and yeah, fantasies can be very different from real life.
It's actually a very different feeling, for a man who seems a sexually agressive woman come on to som guy on screen, and think "wow, that's hot"... but then suddenly get confronted by a woman like that in real life, when we're not already "ready".
It's a real disconnect. very disoriented. it's like,
"WOW! she's all over me! and... wait, what's going on? What's wrong with me?"

Believe it or not, men sometimes do need a little foreplay, too



here's a thought for you:

How about trying to be more "sexually agressive"... but dont make it about intercourse. Make it about "fooling around".

If he seems "up" to something, then maybe go for it. But otherwise... just have "fun" ?

swap "erotic massages" or something. you give first, but be open and let him know somehow that he is NOT "expected to perform".
see what happens.

(but you'd better be prepared to deal with your rushing hormones if he DOESNT perform.
)

(If he gave you a nice massage, but doesnt want to "go there", you might take the pressure off him, by "helping yourself" with him still in the room. Dont have any expectations.... but it might make an interesting "experiment" to see if he has any reaction to that )


Good luck, and ta-ta for now