The C's advice sounds really good. I know when I talk to rational H I can get flustered, can't gather my thoughts, feel like a moron, etc. I appreciate his emails, which give me time to respond. I bet your W will, too.
What do you mean by "get her to move off center"?
Good for you for taking C's comments like a man! Now you just have to do that with W...
I've been thinking about the space issue (since H is talking move out), and wondering how much time you spend at the house. H wonders if I wish he weren't there sometimes (which I do). Do you think W feels like she's getting the space she wants? Just a thought.