I can really feel your pain right now. You are such a lovely person you don't deserve this. It does sound like he is punishing you for all of his issues. You owe it to him not to let him do it. He is in a crazy place right now. (My H is probably in the next bed...) My H read the above guilt thing I posted and got back to me. He said he does feel guilty and admited to some of the above behaviours. We had a very good chat. He told me again how unloved he felt and wondered if I did love him why I did not put up a bigger fight for him. I told him that I was letting him go lovingly as I felt that is what he needed to do to be happy. I obviously was not making him happy and if she could then.... all of the pain was worth it. He is very confused right now. We talked of the past . . of good times. We also talked about divorce. I told him that he must do it if that is what he wants. He seems to know a lot about divorce . . but then OW has been divorced 3 times so he has an expert on side. ;o) A very mixed bag of stuff really. He peeped out from behind his rock and we had a good chat. It was good. It made me feel like I want to chat more . .but I am prepared for him to be hostile again tomorrow. That is what happened after the last time we chatted.
He said he has thought a lot and wondered if he had done the right thing. He said that thought would probably always haunt him.
He played down his R with OW. He said again that he hardly ever saw her and that there was not as much going on as I seemed to think.
And yet .... last week he told me he was happy ...
confused? join the club.
NC x
Be The Greener Grass.
Me 40 H 42 Son 11 Married 15 years. Left May 2006 after gambling spree I had EA August 2006 OW Aug 07 after another gambling spree (she will make me happy - stop me gambling!) I filed for divorce 9th April 2008.
