I did exactly the kind of taking over that you describe in my 1st M.
Hmm. well, there's "taking over",and there's "division of labor". To me, "taking over" implies you doing something that is exclusively his responsability. I dont think that managing the children's time, falls into that category.
HOWEVER... with your comment about tv, maybe that's a moot point....
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However, nights when everyone went to sleep early and we are alone on the couch watching tv have no different physical or emotional contact or tone than any other night so it "rolled off".
Maybe these days, he values just "being together", rather then physical romance type stuff. In other words, where you were looking for that time to be some big emotional cuddly type thing... maybe it made him happy enough to just be together watching tv.
It definately sounds like you have a problem with a "disengaged husband" as far as your relationship goes. However, .. i cant state this enough... He's A Male. (ie: dumb ) Playing little subtle games like "dropping your end of the rope", is not going to work on him, to actually get him to re-engage. Hopefully, you have enough proof of this now, and it is now time to smack some sense into.. Umm.. I mean... more directly communicate your needs to him
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My H is a great guy. He's attractive, smart, funny. I would really like it if he wanted to be my lover.
What if he does "want to"... he just wants you to be dominant about it all the time (including being the one to schedule kid-free time for it)? What if there's nothing that you can do that will change that?
My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D. Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M. 3 wonderful sons caught in the middle
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