I think i have commented to you before. I know how hard it is , ive been there..the only difference is my H didn't actually have affair, just scoping and looking etc. of course I will never know if he truly ever had one.
Anyways have you read the book on sexual addicts? its very good. Ive read it and would be happy to mail it to you. As I feel that ive learned a lot from it. My H is borderline. BUT Yes he is very kinky etc..so I have been more adventurous with our love making.. and your right SINGLEAGAIN.. its true that some men like the dirty stuff.. mine is one of them.. so he gets that and more.
You have to try and communicate to him that this is totally unexceptable to you and that you need to know what he wants and you both will try and work it out, but he has to slow down on internet/video stuff if he is serious.
I know if feels like you are not adequate enough for him, but trust me on this, its HIS hang up not yours.
blessings~ tal
me: 37 H: 44 Married for 18 years this june S7 S3 porn issues, and much more... since 7/06
Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.
