Thank you all for your feedback. I think you are right in that this is likely an addiction for him, which he seems to be in denial about. As for if only doing once a month then why not stop all together. This seems to be mostly because he wants to keep porn a part of the relationship and has great fears about having a sexually complacent relationship which I think porn comforts him around that in some way. I think that sex life is very diverse, fun and active and I think that he would agree if you asked him. In the past I've said to him that I would prefer that if it is to be a part of his life that we do it together, but he seems somewhat reluctant or shy about doing this. As for if I have my own side habit, I don't. I'm pretty unsophisticated when it comes to porn and in fact only really have been exposed to it within this relationship. But I'm open minded. We've tried counseling in the past on this issue and it really went nowhere. I'm thinking about going back by myself. I guess what makes this the most frustrating is that I DO have to find my limits and stay with that before we get married, but I really don't know where that limit is...this, I realize is a problem in many areas of my life. Ugh.
