All hope is lost/help

[Evie]

(((cat)))

If your H is not used to communicating, it is a skill he has to learn. Maybe he has the best of intentions and doesn't or didn't realise how hurt you would be? Maybe he will cool down and see the error of his 'new found' honesty and maybe he may realise that you won't tolerate all of his behaviour and what a negative impact it has had. It may pull him up a little?

Reading between the lines can you take any positives from what he said? Are you allowed to speak to his T and put your point across?

I think space is a good thing this weekend. Time for both of you to reflect...then when you feel able and want to talk you will be more rational.

Can you start physical touching again by putting your hand on his shoulder and saying positive affirmations? (once you have cooled down that is). My H used to surprise me in the early days with surprise weekends away and i'm wondering whether it would be in order to surprise him with a night away in London? No strings attached, just enjoy a show and a nice meal, hotel and come back the next day. Do you think it could work?

Have a glass of wine, watch your favorite dvd with the kids, eat popcorn and distance.

XD