All hope is lost/help

[Evie]

Cat - you sound a bit low? not like you at all, your always so positive!! What was your crisis yesterday?

I will take your advice about distancing even more, that is something that I can do without feeling bad that i'm acting out of character. I spoke to H on the phone earlier (he called me) i asked if he knew where is was going when he left last night, he said he didn't. I said i would appreciate been told where is was going, not because I minded him going out but just because he wouldn't like it if i did it. He said he was sorry. I believe him. He wants to buy a new watch (a v expensive one) it would take most of his savings... I'm going to encourage him to buy it (MLC toy?).

How come you don't confide so much in family and friends?

Reading more into your stich i believe your H has made a huge amount of progress: given up ow, moved back home, committed to working on M and you should be proud of your efforts in staying focused and showing huge patience and understanding and give him the time and space to heal in his own time. You answers to your stich are in your advice to others. You have a lot of wisdom, I should call you 'the wise one'.

I actually meant how old were your children, sorry for that misunderstanding.

The book i read was called 'The five Love Languages' by Gary Oldfield, it's an American book so you shouldn't have trouble in getting it. So far I have learn't my LL and the LL of all my 4 children... Working on H's!!! Bought him a small gift today, plenty of positive affirmations and acts of love (that has 3 of them covered). There is a little quiz at the back of the book, one for women and one for men..

Wishing you a peaceful weekend.

(((Cat)))

XD

PS H is bringing home a takeaway after work (maybe his way of apologising for last night or an act of love, who knows, I shall enjoy teh gesture.