It's been about a week since I've posted. I just read my last post and it looked very positive. Sad to say that this last week has been mostly crappy. Last Friday night we planned to go out for drinks and appetizers and then go to see a band. In my mind a date night. The night was okay, but my W seemed a bit uncomfortable the whole night. We had decent conversation over drinks (or so I thought) and on the walk over to the bar for the music, she mentioned that the night so far felt weird. We get the bar where the band is and eventually start dancing. Try to dance closely with her, but she's uncomfortable with that also. Now I begin to get frustrated. Night ends with us arguing on the way home.
Next night we have dinner over at a friends house. Not a bad night. Night after we rent a movie and watch after the kids go to bed. Again, W is very distant. Sitting apart on the couch. I try to sit next to her, but her body language lets me know she is uncomfortable with this also.
Tuesday night we have a discussion before bed. I've been reading the book "Not Just Friends". A recommendation in there is to have full disclosure of the affair, so I bring this up. I have a bunch of questions that she does answer honestly. Things that I pretty much knew the answer to already, but it was painful to hear some of these things actually coming from her. Don't particularly want to repeat it hear, but I'm sure you can guess. There was one thing that she didn't want to tell me that is still eating away at me. There was a previous A that I had known about, but we never really dealt with it appropriately. I found out about, she told me it was over and I dropped it. Foolish me. I think we should have really dealt with the issue then. I'm thinking we could have avoided it the second time. Anyhow, the issue is that she wouldn't tell me who the person was. Now its been eating away at me, but I think I know who it is.
Next night we went out and bought ourselves two new (used) motorcycles. I'm hoping that this will be an activity that will help to bring us back together...
Kicker of the week... I get text messages this morning from OG's cellphone. The message was 'Can you come say hell? Quick I promise'. Shocked to say the least. Showed it to my W. I'm like - What the F**k?? Turns out it was the OGs W that got a hold of his phone and found text messages from my W. She then forwarded them to me. Wife went to work. I had the day off as we had planned on riding today, but W couldn't get off. Talked to W just a few minutes ago. The OG's W showed up at her office wanting to know why my W is texting her H. This week is just going downhill real quick.
My trust at this point is nil. W is going out to a concert tonight with her sister, so I won't be able to talk to her. Not happy right now. Not liking the W very much right now. Not at all.
