Also, OW should stop calling me at the office & hanging up. She is more than welcome to have a conversation w/me I am NOT afraid of her. In fact, I suggested lets get the 1st OW from the 1st A to even join us and we can have a "nice dinner party" just the four of us. No response...
LOL. sorry, but this is truly funny.
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My reply was we have NOT been working on us for the past year. He was still sleeping w/OW until recently & he had not committed 100% to working on us since he was still in communication w/OW and he had not completely moved out of "his place." The fact that he still had other place indicates he has one foot in the door and one out.
Sadly, you're right. He hasn't bee workin on anything if this is what he's been doing. What is he waiting for? His being "happy" is not going to fall from the sky. This requires action on our part. You have so much on your plate and yet you keep going. You should take pride in that. I ran a business with kids and all. This takes an incredible about of strength and you have high tensile steel in you. I can hear it.
You commented that he is an alcoholic. Is he in any support or C (rehab) type situation? How bad is it? Does he have issues with his Mom and brother behind their not enabling him? I'm glad you're keeping them in the loop with you.
As far as his controlling who you see...I think that's BS. If they are not a danger, he just doesn't have to be there. Sounds like he's quite good at doing his own thing anyway.
The weekends are his?? That's nice. Given his drinking problem, if you have plans I would consider getting a babysitter or have your MIL watch the little one. What's he going to do D you? Seems to me that's already on the table anyway. You don't have to be angry or confrontational though. My comment about his divorcing you is one I use on myself when my H does something I think is wierd or out there. It's a reality check for me.
I think you're doing better than you think. You comments to him were direct and to the point. Unless you were flaming mad when you said them (which would be totally understandable), I am hopeful some of it sank in just a tiny way.
