Me: 46 Wife: 39 D: 13 S: 11, 9, 7 Bomb 3.2.07, Sep Same Day, D papers 11.1.07 Current Status - Wants to take me through Discovery, I will go to prison first.
Just to tie into the last post, did anyone see the BSU & New Mexico St. game Sunday night on ESPN? BSU cleaned house 58-0!
Last night's game was pretty miraculous too, though in a different way!
Okay, on to updating where my sitch stands:
D is still scheduled for Dec. 7th.
Contact w/ W is still at a minimum. I've asked her to take herself off of the car insurance, which she is dragging her feet on. I've asked her to come get the rest of her belongings that have been in the garage and take them to her storage unit, which she has agreed to do, but hasn't taken the initiative on yet. I even told her I would help her to move it if she wants. We're currently working on splitting the cell phone bill. Today I'm taking her name off of all of bills, as well as my checking account. I've arranged to begin our mediation scheduling agreement with the kids starting in two weeks, where the exchange will be done via daycare, and we will no longer have to physically meet. This also means that we will be alternating weekends with the kids, and she will be taking more responsibility with actually spending quality time with the kids (which in turn allows me to have some weekend free time with the rest of the world so I can GAL more).
I am still friendly, helpful (when asked), happy, etc, when communicating with her, and am doing my best to severe emotional ties as much as possible and move on. According to our mutual friend, W and her BF now pretty much HATE each other, yet are basically financially stuck with having to live together. It is a sad situation, and W has too much pride to tell me they are having problems and ask for me to help her get out and on her own again. Even if she was having thoughts of reconciling (which I don't think she is), I don't think she could swallow her pride enough to try. She just isn't at rock bottom yet. Also, I think she's too afraid that things would go back to the way they were, or that I would hold what she has put us through against her. If reconciliation is to happen, it will likely be quite a while longer. I have previously said that it could happen right around the time of the D, simply because of the holiday season emotions, nostalgia, etc, coinciding with her failing R with her BF. She could potentially hit rock bottom at this time, but I'm not holding my breath. I'm ready to go through with the D and move on, and I actually think this will be a great release of stress on both of us, and will allow for more healing and a better R, whether it be just friends or more.
MIL told me the other night that she told W I would be coming to their house for Thanksgiving, Xmas, etc, adding that W brought me into their family, that I was the father of their grandkids, and that I had as much right to be there as anyone (keep in mind that I did not ask to come, nor did they talk to me about this first). Apparently W agreed with this, and said that she understood that this was best for the kids. However, I think I'm going to formally decline the offer as Thanksgiving gets near. I think that it may just be healthier for all involved if I don't attend such family functions. I'm still good friends with the inlaws and see them on a weekly basis, so missing these holiday functions doesn't seem like a big deal to me. I don't have my own family to visit, but I think I'll be okay nonetheless. I may even have some friends that invite me to theirs -- who knows. I think the more space right now, the better, and I will be okay regardless.
I'm throwing a Halloween costume party the weekend before Halloween too. Should be a blast! It'll be my first house party since living here. I'm going to be a pimp (costume-wise, I mean!).
Enjoy your week, everyone! Remember to let the WAS do what they may -- it is out of your hands anyway! They'll figure it out (eventually...).
