I was almost a WAW (and still am-- in my heart?)

[Dom R]

Good morning Sandi,

It sounds to me, like you are on a very good path

"We seem to feel comfortable around each other now and we do treat each other a lot better. "
It makes me really glad to hear that !
IT's not a race, it's a journey. sounds to me, like you are travelling in a good direction

I know you are going to say (DomR) to use that time to cuddle, etc. Well, I'm trying to do better in that area when I'm not so sick I can't stand it. (And, please don't tell me again that I'm using that as an excuse....that's not fair.)

I completely understand the urge to just kinda "hide" when you are sick. I'm not at all suggesting that you try to get your husband to come sit with you all day while you are feeling bad.
Rather, I'm suggesting that, every once in a while, you allow yourself to feel his comfort and support for you, by his presence close to you. Even just a few minutes, is maybe all I'm suggesting.

He hardly ever goes with me to the doctor b/c he has taken off work so much for everyone else. He offers, but if I'm able to get my mom or drive myself....I know he needs the work.

One of the biggest, most valuable gifts you can give your husband... is the gift of letting him take care of you.
If he offers, then let him show you that you are just as important as all those other people, to him.
He may "need the work", but he needs YOU, more.

I'm really glad you are seeing the good side of him more.
It's too bad about the evening stalemate of TV vs board games.
Betcha there are other things that people your age can do at night, though.
(and for once, I'm not talking about you-know-what )

Have a great weekend, and hope you feel better soon.

I'm going on a family trip, with my children and wife this weekend.