Hearing this advice is actually very helpful - it puts me in a clearer mindset.
heh. Now, I know I'm essentially supposed to LISTEN. And I will. But if she wants my opinion/thoughts/feelings/explainations or whatever you wanna call it - that'll be tricky, won't it? I'm going to have to actually craft my words very carefully, so I don't end up sticking my foot in my mouth.
As for getting Divorce Remedy, I've been reading it since 9/16. Some of it's not applicable to us (since we don't have kids and are fairly young) but some of it's offered great insight. It's nice to be able to interact with people who've used it, though - easier to get thoughts on a specific situation from people than a book.
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Gone Dancin' - you posted as I was typing my post. heh. I know it's gonna take time - that's one thing that reading DR actually taught me. I also know I'm going to have to impliment all the things that've been said here over the past day. That if I'm really wanting to fix this relationship, it might be many months of showing, not telling, that I'm working on change.
My big, huge hope? Best case scenario from tonight's conversation? For her to leave here with the seeds planted to make her start thinking about slowing down on how quickly she's moving.
Today's plans? Among the standard borning chores, stop by a local church and spend a little time there, and also get some good exercise, to put me in a decent frame of mind.
Ultimately, I recognize these positive changes are for my happiness in the long run. But it'll be alot happier if I can, through my actions, make her want to come back and be with me.
