No but if someone is not willing to communicate with you then how do you communicate with them? If you are pissed off with their pissed off attitude whose feelings are they?
Those are your feelings. You decide if you want to share them or not, because you are being Who You Are... kwis? What he is doing/being, may or may not have anything to do with you, but until you say something, you don't know. If he isn't willing to tell you, you can't help that. THEN you go about your business.
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The second he steps through the door the atmosphere chills by 10 degrees.
You are the one feeling that, and that is something going on with you.
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If I am fused then I would say "you're making me feel terrible". If I don't want to be fused then I try to detatch from the atmosphere he is generating. Or am I getting it all wrong?
It is your conclusion that he is the one who is 'generating' the atmosphere.... and based on that assumption of truth, you react or act. But you are missing a step.
Have you ever said to him..."wow, it feels 10 degrees chillier to me when we are in the same room together. Do you get that feeling at all?"
