All hope is lost/help

[cat03]

Hi there, yes, from time to time we all have our mini crisis (I had my very own yesterday) it's a hard road, events that would normally be stressful on their own are much harder when our spouses are alianiating themselves from us.

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The thing is I have no idea what H's LL is!!! How bad is that?
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Don't beat yourself for that, I thought I knew my H, he's proved me wrong. He's done things so unlike the person I marry. I don't know what my H's love language is, he seems so distant from anything, very unreachable at times.

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but it seems everything i'm doing is not having an effect all.
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There is doing 180's to change bad habits, then there is expecting our spouses to behave the way we want them to, on our timing. He alone has to decide to change, to stay, to open up with you. I do my best at home, we talk nice w/H and do things together, but still he wont' sleep with me. But I know he isnt' ready and all I'll do is put pressure in him, I can't make him do anything, same with you, you can't change your H. You must detach even more and let him figure himself out.

Is my C young? no, he's actually the olderst C i've seen so far.

Wish I had the patience of a saint, I do feel restless often, but I just move on and pick myself up. My family doesn't know and the few friends who know dont' know every detail, it's better that way. T stands for therapist.

Hope you feel better now and that this day is wonderful because you will make it so regardless.