I found a 1/2 bottle of rum hidden in the closet. My W has problems. She is hidding things. I think mental things from me. I am at peace, But I feel a storm coming. I am still sending the letter on Tuesday. I hope I can hold out until then. I am almost thinking of our "date" on Saturday as a Goodbye date. I will see what kind of response I get from the letter but am sure it won’t be good. I have this feeling. I think she is only staying around for my son. So does this make me a bad person because I want to end it? I am ready for the Divorce. I have n o idea where to start. All our stuff is so intermixed. It is hard because unlike most of your sitches my W and I are not fighting. We have never called each other a name. We have NEVER hit each other. I think it would be easier for me if she would just do something. I'm not mad, I'm not scared anymore. I am not really hurt. I am sad for my son. It is so strange me living so open and transparent with NOTHING to hide and the person I am with is so hidden in her problems. Don’t worry everyone I’m ok. I think I have just come out of my own fog.
Husband
Hi Husband,
What's going on?
Hey Sara,
nothing going on. I think the time is more now that ever that this letter needs to be sent. I am at the end of my rope. My W has problems. I am finding 1/2 empty run bottles hidden around the house. I need to hold out for 5 more days.I so much want things to work out but I have detached so far that it will be a relief one way or antoher when it is over. I am ready for what ever comes out of this except if it goes one way I don't know how to tell my son.
Hi Husband---
Now, I don't know much, but I know about empty rum bottles. Don't you think your wife is just depressed---probably anxious as well?
Yes Delia, I don't know what the problem is but There is a problem. I have found a bottle hidden before and did not say anything. I don’t know if she has a drinking problem. Do people with drinking problems drink all of the time? I don't think she does that. But she is using alcohol for something.
Husband
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
When this thing first started. I got a call at work. Keep in mind I found the pictures, I had my crying and begging episode. And I get a phone call at work from the school that my son was in the principal’s office and the police were called. I work in the next town about 30 miles away. I drove to the school and met W there. My son threatened to kill someone. Now he is 10. He plays these stupid video games and I know he didn't realize what he was saying. But as you know the schools can't take any chances now days. I volunteer at the school. (Was editor of the school newspaper) so the principal knows me and I am a reserve Police officer at the police department so the officer knows me. We get it all straightened out my son wrote a letter of apology to the girl. But what I was getting to is that first my W asked why I left work she could have handled it. I told her noting can keep me away from my family if they need me and he did. Then something was said I don't remember what but I said something about it not being the right time. My W's response was "there is no right time. If this is not the time then when will be the right time?"
Some thing will always come up. I could say "well maybe I should wait until after her b-day (Oct 7th). Or maybe I should wait until after she gets a job. Or wait until my son is out of school for the summer. Or after my VEGAS vacation. There will always be something. Yes I am confused, angry, hurt, betrayed. I don't have any idea how to tell everyone if it comes to that.
Husband
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And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
Husband, Only you know when the time is right, and I wanted to make sure you were. I believe you are ready. In Dr. Dobson's book "Love Must Be Tough" he talks about when you send the letter to be prepared that it could possibly end your marriage. He says you need to be at a point that you will be able to handle the outcome either way.
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
I am at that point. I need to find love. I would prefer to find it at home.but.... I am kind of in the situation that your husband and other WAS must feel, ecxept I am letting my W know this before I look else where. I am not saying that you or anybodys else here has done the things my wife has did but I can't just go out and have an affair. I am giving my W a chance. Don't you wish your husband wrote you a letter like this before all of this started?
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
