While I'm not there....yet.....I can feel your frustartion, bro. You wonder how it could have ever gotten here. And who loses???? your kids, of course.
How are your kids doing? When I think of my kids, it rips my heart out. I get the I haven't built memories...blah, blah,balh, but that's seems so insignificant now (especially being in Salah din Province, Iraq!! They should not be forced to go through this. You, like me, love your kids, value the intatc family, and would crwal over broken glass to have saved it. WTF is wrong with these women????? Your sitch sounds like mine: I have a great civilian job (when I'm NOT in Iraq), great house, wonderful neighborhood, great friends in the neighborhood, 3 kids (who have their own issues now, of course).
You have to wonder: Where does it get any better for these women? Of course, my W. is at home in CT, living off of my tax-free salary, hostile fire pay, separation pay, drinking $30 bottles of wine. what's not to like.
FaithfulH had it right: all we can change is ourselves. As a Special Forces friend told me about my W: "F..her. Throw her under a bus, worry about your kids". That's not me, but I get it!
Oh well, bets of luck: stay away from the 40+ women with the midlife-tattoo at the base of their spine (again...WTF?)and the 400 pound smokers...LOL! You still doing marathons?