Thanks, ST. I'm concerned about telling them (they're 4 and 7) that we need some time apart when H is totally convinced that he's done and not coming back. I know we don't know what will happen, but "we need some time apart" sounds like we're taking a break for a while, and I'm loathe to hear questions about when papa's coming home.
What do you guys think?
Also, I get the part about not telling them papa wants to leave, that it's his decision (instead of mutual), but what about the questions they may ask (or my oldest, at least)? What if he asks sometime whether I wanted papa to leave?
I guess I could say something noncommittal like, "I want papa to be happy," but that feels intentionally vague, and I want him to know I'll be honest with him.
Oh, gosh, this is going to be so hard. Someone on another thread said the only mistake they made when telling the kids was crying, but I'm not sure I can get through this dry-eyed.
