I'm still doing it

[nephartiti]

MK, H only admitted to talking to a woman from work whom he will not name. Talking includes hours of cell calls to the extent where he skipped out on outings with kids and would not answer phone. However, there were several nights he did not come home and "meetings" at work when I saw him drive away from school (yes I was spying). The day he left, he got new cell phone strictly to contact her (20 times a day). No, he still says there is no OW. The stage 4 thing really scares me. At what point in these stages do we have a chance of turning things around? I'm trying not to panic, but I feel like this rollercoaster is out of control!

Morgan, I wouldn't be surprised if he turned this whole thing into martyrdom. I want the kids to be happy. I always treated S9 like dirt. They deserve to be brothers, so I'll just remove myself as a burden and let you be happy. I'll suffer with OW. It would be just like him to justify it.

Anyway, he is supposed to show up here in the morning. He wants to have breakfast with the kids. I'm trying to decide whether to make a semi-nice breakfast or let him fend for himself. I don't want to come on too strong, but I don't want to be rude either. What's the protocol on this one?

Also, I haven't specifically told him I don't want him going off on an adventure with them. I'm not sure how to do this without accusing him of breaking our agreement about no contact with imaginary OW.

Anyone have any suggestions? I was going to try to sneak off without mentioning the car seats, but I think that is almost petty. I want to be straightforward but non-threatening