lost in the land of confusion 6 and holding

[saffie]

That was 5 months ago - you are right. A lot has changed and she has seen your changes. Now she probably realises she needs to change to keep you.

If she was going to go she would be gone by now. You have proved by your actions that you will work at things. Do not bottle this now by going in making false assumptions that could harm you.

You do not have a monkey on you shoulder - you are fine. I'll come skinny dipping and keep you company!!!LOL There's a big pond between us - now where did that come from?

There's been a thread called something like 'could I have hurt my wife with sex'. On it someone has posted a massive article about sex and women. Part of it covers probs with menopausal women. Go have a read. It may help you if your W talks about this when she finally talks to you.

Maybe she is worried about you going back to work - maybe she is worried you may dump her what with you being in work and her not. There are just so many maybe's and without talking to her you will never find out what is fact and what is fiction. Maybe she is trying to get up courage to initiate something physical. I had to get drunk for the first time I did it after each baby because I wasn't sure what to expect. Jeeze - I would need some courage after not doing it for so long on top of having cheated - imagine how she would feel if she got rejected by you - that must be a real possibility in her mind.

Hold it together. Post and vent on here. Voice your fears etc, but keep up your fantastic PMA with your W. I am jus so hopeful for you.

((((((HUGS))))))))

Saffie