I think the finances stuff is lose-lose. You need to protect yourself but you don't want to set your H off. Here's an example of what can happen... My XH was talking about buying a house, so I didn't want to go to the bank one day and find out that he pulled out all $10K that we had, so about one week into our separation, I pulled out half. He found out about a week later and came over yelling and screaming at me...He told me, "I can't believe you did this to me. "She" said you would do that and I stood up for you and said that you wouldn't". I just told him that I only took my half because I didn't want him to buy a house with it. He responded with "Do you think that was going to stop me? I can't believe you did this to me it cuts so deep. I don't care if God himself told you to do it. You shouldn't have. I want my half."
There is absolutely no reasoning with someone like this. In the end I don't know if it mattered that I took the money out, but I can tell you that our finances have been split since that day. It probably drove him further away but then again, I might have lost all my savings otherwise...it really is lose-lose...and the worst is no matter how much you want to trust him...you can't because he's not the same person anymore.
M:28, D finalized: 8/28/07 Current Thread
"When life gives you a hundred reasons to cry, show life that you have a thousand reasons to smile."
Although you are in an upbeat phase and are probably ready to enjoy yourself now that Saturn has left your sign, something is once again holding you back. Perhaps you are concerned about a power struggle that is unfolding on the home front or with a family member. Remember, it's crucial to get the issues out in the open so there will be fewer surprises in the days ahead.
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
You may be quite willing to demonstrate what you have to offer now, especially within the context of romance or creative endeavors. But this isn't a very light-hearted phase for you. You play for keeps whether you are working on a job, creating your artistic masterpiece or just looking for love. Hold back just enough to feel safe, and then apply your sense of purpose to go for it.
Husband
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
