What are you trying to change her mind or the marriage. Because you can change the marriage but you cannot change her mind, she has to do that. With that said, how much disrespect can one man take, you going to let her continue this or are you going to take a stand for Heim. I mean aren't you really sabotaging yourself here (with the snooping)and not getting yourself closer to your goal...well maybe that is your goal and you don't know it yet...maybe just maybe your so pissed off at her that your really going to make sure its over...Have you thought about that??
I am really a nice person and I think you are a good person too and your just trying to make sense of all of this...
I don't mean to be harsh with you I really don't....I just want you to think about Heim and take a stand for him...
Take all that I've said here with a grain of salt ok...or maybe just think about it...or maybe just think I'm crazy....
I've only been db for about 8 months now...but I can tell you this the minute that I gave up on my marriage and truly let it and my H go. Everything changed for me...it was like someone threw a switch in my head... And that is when the real changed started to happen...
Be good to yourself heim you deserve so much and lastly respect yourself.
