our un-relationship

[Dom R]

This is what your situation sounds like to me:

When the baby came along, he was still emotionally a boy.
He was, and is, commitment phobic.
However, actually SEEING, and being around, the child, has helped him grow up more, and be emotionally ok with the idea of acting like a father, even if he isnt ready to accept the label of "husband and father" right now.


Sounds like you are basicaly living a married life, except for living in two homes.

If HE wants to bring up remarriage again... to my mind... he might actually be worth taking the risk on again. if you go through some "pre-marital counselling" this time.

meanwhile... you might want to consider bringing up living in the same house, so you can do what you are now doing, but more conveniently/economically?

and/or.... ease up on the "no cuddling" drama?


Basically: he's been an idiot.. he's made lots of mistakes.. he's even admitted that.. but.. he's 30 now. That probably means something to him. it's a transition point.

30 was kinda a long transitional year for me. 31 was, "ok, I'm really 30 now.. middle-aged time" kinda thing.