My life don't fit the book, please help.

[saffie]

My H didn't fit the book completely. He told me about his A because I missed the trail he was leaving me. He wanted me to show that I wanted him and the way to do that was by being strong about it. It worked. We lived through a week of hell when I thought it could go either way but he tells me, (and hindsight is wonderful isn't it), that from the first day I went nuts about it, and he knew I really still wanted him, it was a done deal.

I have read the guys posts and I can see that from where you are situated they are strong. Also they don't know your W and how she would react to some of their advice. However their concepts I applaud - and so obviously do you.

I am posting because as a woman I see a lot of hope in your circumstances - your W doesn't look like she has checked out of your M yet. Keep up that PMA - it really helps. Expect the lows again tho' - we all get them - we are after all human.

My H loves that I am stubborn and muleish. He loves my quick wit even when it is being used against him. He has had to take , and continues to take, flack from me, mainly in the form of humour, for his A. He is a man and stands. I can't walk all over him and tho' I hate that he had an A it sure woke me up and showed me who I wanted to be with. I love him and respect him. Trust we are working on and it will be a work in progress for a long time - but things are still much better than before and neither of us would rather be with anyone else - now and hopefully forever. For my peace of mind he is transparent.

You have so much going for you Lester.

Saffie