CanChange My 180 is to lay off and learn to be sweet as apple pie for the rest of my life. Rest of your life????? Well, if you do it for the rest of your life, you might not be M to your current W.
but be careful that in your enthusiasm to make it work/"fix yourself" that you don't "nice" yourself into a corner (which will likely lead to resentment down the road) or take responsibility for *everything* (which IMHO is a form of control
Kettricken, I see this as a problem that isn't visible at first to 90% of the nice guys trying to make the R work.
CanChange, Listen to Kettricken.
The more you do above and beyond what is your responsibility, the more your W can blame you. BTDT, it didn’t work. Sometime it works better when you allow your W to work things out w/o you being the “nice guy.”
