That's one of the things that makes me so mad. I've always been there for H and his job. He's jumped a lot over the past few 5-6 years, but I've always been the one to help him update his resume and get it posted or sent wherever he needed it. I was excited for him to start this new position....blah, blah, blah. I know there was a time that I go so stressed that I was just too tired for much of anything, but things were getting so much better for us....truly they were.
I often wonder if OW's M is not as happy a one, as I thought it was, and she's pushing my H with her talk & possibly questions. I know, H plays a part in it too, but I was totally blindsided by his negative attitude earlier this summer. Literally, our D3 was gone to my parents and we had an awesome week. I can still distinctly remember laying in bed in each others arms and just talking about how nice it was. Then, just a few short days later, his attitude changed. It makes me wonder if something happened between him & OW then. That was around the 4th of July. H had gone to work with a buddy of his who was in town on a job for a few days for some extra money. On the 3rd of July, he told me that he was going to stay with the buddy as they'd be working late & getting up very early to work. H called on breaks & at night and was very sweet. We even went to OW & her H's house to celebrate the 4th. He was very attentive to me that night and we had fun. It was that weekend....the 7th that he flipped. We went to a concert (Prince....awesome by the way). He'd wanted us to stay downtown at a hotel after the concert, but all were very expensive that weekend. H even told me....don't worry about it....we'll stay another time....we'll just go home then. So, dummy me thinks everyting is okay. On the day of the concert, he says.....So, do you even want to go to this concert or not.....if you don't, I'll find someone "fun" who does want to go. WHAT?? I said....of course I want to go....I wouldn't have had my parents drive 5 hours to watch our D3 if I didn't want to go. That's when it started. I wonder if something happened that week or if he met her when he was supposed to be staying with his buddy.
Sorry again Pamar.....I took over your thread.....just venting.
ME: 42, H: 42, D6 Together: 18 yrs. Married: 15 yrs. Attended Retrouvaille - December 2009 Status: Working on it day by day
I want to be intimate, but I am also trying to respect her wishes (but what about mine?). Not sleeping to great, next to a georgeous body and not being able to do anything about it.
Maybe its a male thing, but I find this aspect one of the hardest to cope with.
Guess I need to get this body into "gorgeous" shape so my H won't be able to resist me!
I'd put my arm around her. I know it's probably hard not to be able to do anything else, but you'd be able to tell if even that was pushing it to far at times, right? I know I can tell when my H is okay with that and when he isn't. When he is, he'll lift his arm so I can tuck mine under it and around his chest. When he isn't, the arm tightens up or it goes up by his face.
I'd do anything to be able to have that arm around me. My H is 6' 2" and looks great. I'm just under 5' 5", so having his arms around me makes me feel very safe. Not feeling so safe right now.
I'm hoping you're day is better and the weather is helping. Weather here today is sunny, so that helps.
SueS
ME: 42, H: 42, D6 Together: 18 yrs. Married: 15 yrs. Attended Retrouvaille - December 2009 Status: Working on it day by day
