Since you have a teenager, is there any way you can arrange to do more fun things with your wife. One thing I'd suggest is starting a routine to take a walk together each night. Have your wife finish reading to S, (or maybe right after dinner) and then the two of you take a quick walk around the neighborhood. Avoid relationship talk, just be friends. Ask her lots of questions and be a great listener. The walk will help with two things, 1) it will give you both some time to connect and communicate as friends, and 2) exercise helps increase endorphins which helps with depression.
So.... get that woman off the computer and into some walking shoes!
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