I know...I guess my thing is that in MC, he's requested that I be "more nurturing", and almost every time I try to do something like that, he has a hard time accepting.
I guess I sort of want credit <grin>.
I do think it's like Jen says. Whenever I call him on his inability to accept anything from anyone (it's not just me), he talks about saving me trouble, pain, whatever. Makes me nutso.
You know...I think what's really making me crazy is that I'm just ahead of him on the learning curve here. I've worked my butt off to make myself happy...and he's sort of just played at it. Can't do anything for him though...it's his own journey.
Thanks Jen and Rob for chiming in. You know, Jen, I think H must have an English twin and it's your H!
SD
Me: 40 H: 43 H had EA from 2/06-9/06 Bomb 5/06 Piecing since 9/2006 3/2008: Boundary setting 7/2009: Boundary crossing~dropped my own bomb. 8/2010: Marriage finally on track!
I know...I guess my thing is that in MC, he's requested that I be "more nurturing", and almost every time I try to do something like that, he has a hard time accepting.
Maybe you're just not speaking his Nurturing Language!
Thread #10 22 year M, MLC, Piecing since 1/07 Goal: Live with confidence & enthusiasm!
Nothing bad with H at all. Things are good there. In fact, when I got home today, he gave me several hugs because I had the cr@ppiest day...spoke to my LL.
No, my crappy day was the parent who insisted on yelling at me in our workroom this morning 2-minutes before I was due to be with my students. She ripped me a new one...big time. Didn't want to hear the truth, just made a bunch of assumptions and said all sorts of horrible things to me.
I kept it together in front of her, Thank God, but I had to find someone to watch my class because I was so upset. I have no issue with having a conversation with a parent about any problem they may have with me, but it's not okay for parents to be disrespectful like that.
The parents at our school are out of control this year. Several other of my colleagues have been jumped on and harrassed as well.
Know why good teachers leave? Not because of salary. Because of BS like this.
SD
Me: 40 H: 43 H had EA from 2/06-9/06 Bomb 5/06 Piecing since 9/2006 3/2008: Boundary setting 7/2009: Boundary crossing~dropped my own bomb. 8/2010: Marriage finally on track!
Glad that he's stepping up and trying some, SD. I'm happy to hear that.
I'm so sorry about that awful parent!! And geez.. if they are that disrespectful to you as the teacher, think maybe that has something to do with why their kid might be having some issues?? I've never understood people who treat their kid's teachers that way.
(((SD)))
Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7 Bomb 1 10/07/06 Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15 Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07 Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate 2/08 slowly improving 7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!) Current thread
Because they are narcissistic idiots? They are apparently abundant these day and age. At my son's preschool, there's this snobbish mom that chewed the teacher out just because on the first day they misspelled her daughter's name. Ok....
M: 31 W: 31 M: 7 T: 8 S:4 D:2 Bomb dropped: too many to count or remember, 12/17/07 last one S on 9/2/07 W sent off D papers 12/31/07. Me trying to live life and hope she returns one day.
I'm so sorry to hear that. I work in education (special ed) and have often had teachers confide in me of similar situations. Please try to keep in mind that it's not about you at all but their own problems, frustrations and inability communicate that in a useful way. Unfortunately this type of situation is not uncommon.
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There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
Hey SD, I'm glad H is taking those baby steps. Good deal!
I'm sorry that you had to deal with Mamma A$$hole. The sad thing is, you and MA are the two of the biggest role models her poor kid has right now - and instead of working as partners to help the kid grow up terrific, you get this kinda crap. Maybe, deep down, MA recognizes a shining star when she sees one, and feels threatened by the positive energy streaming out of you. I'll bet her relationship with her kid is based on a much more negative dynamic.
Remember that for every loudmouth skank mamma that crawls up out of the suburbian slime, there are a dozen other families that recognize and appreciate you, but don't think to take the time and let you know. D@mn, you make me want to go back and hug every fantastic teacher D15 has had along the way. Guess I'll settle for this for today: (((((((((SD))))))))
Thread #10 22 year M, MLC, Piecing since 1/07 Goal: Live with confidence & enthusiasm!
