Sounds to me like fearless is a recovering perfectionist

Awwww Kett!!! You gave it away \:\) I was going to tease Cobra that he was using all the right examples but missing what one of my issues has been.

I was going to use the below quote to tell him to try again.

Cobra -But when you say this...

Fearless - I am not perfect but sometimes I get the feeling that the only way I could have kept my XH from straying would have been to be perfect and when people like you, Cobra and others take this tact it does bring up that feeling back up.

Cobra -...it tells me that maybe you were too much of a pleaser.

Anyway, I need to rush off to a meeting but yes I am recovering fairly well from my perfectionism. I recognize it when it hits and I mitigate the affects fairly well, I think.

Thanks for your best wishes.



But what is happiness except the simple harmony between a man and the life he leads? ~Albert Camus