sigh. never say never. in rereading my post, AFTER the edit window has expired :-/ i realize that yes, he has initiated, once or twice. But hopefully, my point is still clear: that expecting him to, is an unlikely and unreasonable expectation.
My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D. Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M. 3 wonderful sons caught in the middle