markyb your comment above is correct. I will not argue with you about it. But, I have been down that cheeseless tunnel, the one you are walking down right now and you know what I found down there, nothing that I was looking for. My wife was not there. I found only self pity, anger, resentment, sadness and loneliness.
Originally Posted By: markyb
If my W put just 1/10th of the positive emotional energy into or M that she is putting into OM, who knows what may have been possible.
Can that be said about you/us also. If you/we had put 1/10 of the positive emotional energy into our M that we are trying to put in to it now, would our S ever need to look for someone else to fulfill their needs???
We gave our S the reason to feel the way they do today. We were not filling their needs, whether or not the they told us is irrelevant. If we would have been filling their needs, then there would not be any need for them to tell us. Granted, most likely, they were not filling our needs either and both them and us got lazy and were waiting for the other to do something. Well they got tired of waiting for us to do something and now they are trying to move on to greener pastures.
“Do you want to be RIGHT or want to be LOVED” “You have to have a life to share a life with someone” “When you stop resisting, you start learning”
