Am I piecing yet #2

[Have Faith]

Cagzmom - If you look at my link to my second thread at the very beginning it tells you in brief my sitch. I also responded to you on your thread earlier this month with some of the details.

What didn't work was trying to convince him that he was making a mistake. Being too available. Anytime he wanted to be with me, I was there. Trying to hurry the process along. Snooping.

What worked (or at least seems to) was trying to show him that if we were back together, he would not have to walk on egg shells. Being nice and doing things for him when he was around. Laughling and wearing sexy clothes when we when out. Being mysterious. Not telling him where I went or when I was going to be home. Alluding to golfing with another man (this is when I really started to see changes in him). Turning him down for dinner on a Saturday night by telling him I already had plans. But non of this would have worked if he was not past the point of infatuation with the OW. It takes time and it doesn't happen on our time schedule. I think that when they start acting like they are still interested in you and really don't know what to do, they open their eyes and start seeing you differently.

You just need to continue to move forward without anger being vented towards him. Let him see that you are making a life without him, but tell him that you are still open to working it out.

I hope this helps and I pray for you and everyone else on this board. I'm not out of the woods yet, but I can see light.

Faith