Still Seperated and Hopeful

[frank_D]

I kept it short and she ended the call with, "sorry to bother you"

She's good man, real good. You're better. Let her stew in her juices for a while

she was inquiring if I was ignoring her calls or what

Then say "I don't carry my cellphone with me all the time, or I wasn't at home". Regardless, if you feel like I'm 'avoiding you' then maybe you should look at why you feel that way just because I wasn't available at your command.

Like Yoyowife said " Be pleasant just with her like you would with a co-worker or neighbor."

Or any other human being.

Remember "The only way to win, is not to play the game"

[mcojh]

Thanks Frank. I am better than her. I am standing up for my marriage and my family. I am doing what is morally right. It is just so hard knowing she is going away for the weekend with FFOM. She said yesterday that it "isn't what I think" well WTH does that mean.

I have no idea what to believe anymore.

And as crazy as it sounds, I am fighting the urge to call her, but I won't.

[Yoyowife]

MC,
I know what you mean about having the urge to call her, but don't. It is so hard sometimes to resist calling, but believe or not that get's easier also. The only time you should call her at this point is to return her call.

As far as understanding "isn't what I think", don't even try to figure it out. You'll drive yourself crazy. They don't even know what they mean. They are delusional themselves. They can turn anything around to make it seem right to themselves. As far as believing them, you are right they become masterful at lying.

You just keep being the man that you are and you will come out ahead.

[saffie]

Helping others helps. It was great to see you on goinginsanehere's thread.

Saffie

[Yoyowife]

Saffie,
I think sometimes we offer suggestions it opens our eyes to what we should be doing also.

[saffie]

Yoyo,

I really don't think I am helping anyone at the moment!!!

[mcojh]

You made me laugh the other day with the joke.

That really helped me. Unfortunately I can't forward it to anyone.

[saffie]

Thanks for that - I hide behind silliness and humour!!!!!

I guess because it all is a bit silly when it boils down to it. Sex is silly when you look at it. Bet most of us don't look like it does in the movies - woops - maybe I'm wrong and it's just me that falls out of bed or gets the kids walking in or says the wrong thing, or thinks about the shopping list sometimes when my mind should be elsewhere

Saffie

[Yoyowife]

Yoyo,

I really don't think I am helping anyone at the moment!!!

I have to disagree with you Saffie. You are so kind and always have words of wisdom and encouragement for us all. You made it through all of this chaos, it shows that perhaps there is a chance for us!

[saffie]

Thanks Yoyo,

I fear my head is taking me back down. But on the plus side my H is being v. supportive, (he's probably booking my room in the asylum now!!).

I just need to learn to practice what I preach!!!! That is the hard bit isn't it!!!

Actually - I am deciding that as from now all whinging will stop. Am going to assume 'as if' and hope it works!!!

You guys are all so great and I really have no other probs than the ones in my head .

Is it cryogenics that's to do with freezing heads and having them attached later to another body? I want it the other way around. LOL

saffie