Yes, the snooping is more pain, but it is also a reminder of reality. Sometimes, the evidence in inconclusive which leads to speculation, which also leads to more pain. However, some of my snooping has led to concrete evidence that has actually given me some relief. I knew he was cheating on me, but he denied it so vigilantly that I thought I was really crazy. I was making it all up. I was so insecure and controlling. I almost committed myself. Now I know I'm not crazy! I'm an LBS with a WAS! If I hadn't snooped, I might be committed and believing my H left me b/c I was crazy.
On the other hand, If I had armed myself with DR sooner, maybe I could have turned things around during the several weeks he was confused and didn't "know" if he loved me anymore.
Who knows.
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Me29 H33 D9 months S2 S9(previous R) Sep 8-19-07 I file 11-5-07 H home (Retro) 2-15-08 "Today is the tomorrow of yesterday." -- S9
