Thank you Keyzblew for your post. I too have seen and heard the bait being laid out in front of me and I am not taking it. Last night after coaching soccer for my youngest's team, we waited for X to show up to pick up D, she was 45 minutes late. I enjoyed the time with D, we watched the full moon and talked about the bats flying around. I turned lemons into lemonade, I wasn't the least bit worried about X being so late. When she showed up, she was defensive and even proded me by asking "What's wrong with you?" I simply smiled and said nothing was wrong, I was just giving kisses to the girls and I was happy to spend 45 minutes alone with my little girl. She tried to get me to chat about some things that were not appropriate for discussing in front of the girls and told her that I'd email her.
Doesn't sound like much but she tried the usual things to get under my skin, to pull the strings and it simply did not work. I had a smile on my face, said good bye and left. It was easy to do, I've done it before but now I am so exhausted from playing the push pull that I left the rope alone, nothing there to tug at for her.
It has been over a year that I've let everything go and have actually had a good R with the X. It was just a few weeks ago that things kinda went weird. But yes, I do believe that it was a combo of X meeting my new GF and me having some funny feelings that have to do with GF more than X but felt like emotions about X.
You know what made me laugh about life was when my GF came to me and said that my girls both said that she looks like mommy. I told GF "You must be kidding me, you are much better looking and the girls don't refer to you as the witch." Yes, my girls sometimes refer to x as a witch because she is so mean to them. It is kind of funny when they tell me that, they even tell me that mommy sometimes rides a broom instead of driving a minivan. You have to sit back and laugh because Karma does truly existed. I've always told my X to treat me with respect in front of the girls because they will remember how she treats me. The girls say that "The witch" comes out sometimes at home but that mommy likes being a witch to daddy all the time. You have to love it!
Anyways, I'm about to truly have a major announcement to make in the next 10 days. I won't let the cat out of the bag but suffice to say that what has been going on in my life has greatly affected how I dealt with GF and X. Once past this hurdle I do believe a huge weight will be lifted off my chest and the chip off my shoulder with the x. I do believe that in the next 10 days will be a huge milestone in my life and I can put what has happened to me since my D to rest. More to come soon, I promise.
I believe that dreams are more powerful than facts,that laughter is the only cure for grief. And I believe that love is stronger than death
