He has to work late to finish a project for the retreat...offered to pick him up dinner, he said that sounded like, "a lot of work." Well, F*CK, I wouldn't have offered if I didn't mean it. He's such a f*cking martyr sometimes...makes me think he ought to hide out around Easter....
I started to say something like After being bombed he could be scared of you and scared to "ask too much and push his luck". But then, I realized I was playing the Old Second Guess What The Other Person Is Thinking Game, and that just never is worthwhile. And it occurred to me... you're doing a little of that too, aren't you?
Originally Posted By: SDFoundGirl
Anyway, I'm going to deliver dinner to him though apparently it's such a ginormous, horrid chore for me to complete. THIS is why I'm not a pleaser. All the you shouldn'ts and it's too muches and I'll just suffer here in my personal prisons. How about a thank you, yes.
Good plan, just go ahead and do it - it's a nice gesture.
Seriously, hon, it seems to me like you are blowing this up way out of proportion. And a lot of it goes back to expectations - you made a nice offer, and he didn't respond as you expected. So, ease up the expectations and just keep doin' what you feel is right for you, otay?
Thread #10 22 year M, MLC, Piecing since 1/07 Goal: Live with confidence & enthusiasm!
