It sounds to me that you (and at some point your wife) would benefit greatly in talking to a sex therapist, or a sex surrogate... it sounds to me that your wife is hitting you smack dab in the middle of your male ego... and you are accepting it. I think that is really below the belt (what a pun...)
It is one thing for her to be honest with you and tell you what she does and doesn't like (which I think is good), but I also think she needs to participate a heck of a lot more in her own pleasure, and owning that responsibility. I don't know WHY women think men automatically KNOW this stuff (or should)... but... many of us do... (I did... sigh)...
If she isn't having a vaginal orgasm and she wants one... then it's up to her to find out how to get one, and ask if you'd be willing to help her get there... kwis? Can you see how that would automatically put you both in a different frame of mind, right there?
I'm sure there is more to the separation story than just the sex... I'd like to hear it... but if there isn't... I dunno. Sex is so much more than just great technique and getting off. Troubled sex lives are often indicators of other serious issues in the R. Has she talked about any of that?
