There and Back, #7

[SallyM]

thanks, donna. do you think its the full moon? I swear it threw us all off last month. weird things happened. maybe this month its making us miss our spouses more..or rather, feel it more.

Karen, thank you for jumping in with your support. it really does help, having all of you here to vent to, to ask advice, to run things past. I only wish I had found this place sooner!

I used to hope for option 3, but a lot has happened over the last couple of months that make me realize that isn't likely to happen. but hey, we can dream, right?

lwb, you are a rock and you know it. maybe a coughing rock right now, but a rock all the same. thanks for the youtube link, btw. lol.

mk, thanks for the homer stuff. I'm not sure I really buy that dating others will help bring h closer to me. and I sure as hell am thinking it would be very unfair to anyone I dated, if my motivations were to bring h closer to me. seriously. how would that work? hey, dude, you are cute and funny so lets go have some fun...but just so you know, it is all to get my husband back. Not exactly fair.

atgo, I hate most generalizations more than I hate broccoli. seriously, they annoy me and make me want to buck them. lol. not sure I'm going to be able to separate and keep friendship out of my R with H...not sure that is really possible. but time will tell. never say never.

as for judging my H as a stranger...would I be able to be friends with a person who had an A? well, yeah, I guess so...my sister had one, and I love her and am friends with her. my best friend had an EA, and same. I don't judge them. Now, that said, a lot of how they dealt with the aftermath of the A's that they had helps. they have tried hard to make things right, and are good people, in spite of some bad actions on their part. and even though H has been a total ass to me in many, many ways, if I met him today, trust me, I'd love to be friends with him. he's fun, funny, engaging. But I wouldn't date him.